How your family deals with your ASD
I was one of those who wasn't diagnosed until I was an adult. Mine has always been accepting, sometimes I think almost too much so. I never get any demands or expectations put on me; I have to put them on myself.
I remember reading about parenting styles awhile back: authoritarian, authoritative, indulgent, negligent. My parents were definitely indulgent. I was never given many chores or responsibilities or expectations, but I was always told I was brilliant, unique, one of a kind, smart. Whenever I had any struggles, I was bailed out of them. I tend to think I was almost enabled to not work on my weaker areas.
Now that I'm older, my mom has passed, and I'm married, husband is the one I interact with the most, and he's been supportive. I've had jobs in the past, both full and part time, but now I'm home as we prepare for a child next year. I want to be a SAHM; I know I could never work and take care of a child at the same time. In the meantime, I keep occupied by taking care of the home. I'm a pretty good house cleaner, and I take care of the house and our cats. I clean, do laundry, do dishes, feed the cats (in the evening; husband wakes before me usually and feeds them in the morning), clean their litterbox, take out the trash. I like having chores, responsibilities, things to organize. What I'm not good at, is interacting with others. This is why I didn't have success at most jobs: I could usually do the impersonal tasks, but not manage stress, frustration, humans well. You need both to climb ladders and keep jobs.
But I'm hoping I can at least be a decent mother, if I'm indeed still fertile. If for some reason I cannot have children, I'll keep being a homemaker. I might also try substitute teaching or direct support again, like I did from 2012-2019. So I have backup plans if I can't have a child.
But that's how my family and I deal with my ASD. I try to live as fulfulling a life as possible, despite many social and adaptive shortcomings.