Who knows the real you?

Amity

A question thats been with me since I started on the Autism discovery journey.

Not many people, perhaps just one, Verity. Others in my family might be close to knowing me as I am, but its only a part of me that they know.

Not sure some days if I know who I am either

Who knows the real you?

Bender

Same here - my wife. To the extent you can know anybody, yourself included 

The kids know me pretty well (but they're still on the young side) and so do a few very close friends. 

But she's the only one that really knows me, the whole thing. She saw me in all kind of circumstances and situations and I told her things nobody else knows.

Only someone who fully accepts you could get to know you that well: I wouldn't hesitate to show myself in a bad light or think of disguising what I think in any way.

Statest16

I honestly don't know

Teach51

 Amity said: Not sure some days if I know who I am either 

This about sums it up. I have friends who know at least as much as I do who I am, I am still finding out new things that keep surfacing in therapy.

Bender said: Only someone who fully accepts you could get to know you that well: I wouldn't hesitate to show myself in a bad light or think of disguising what I think in any way.

I have close friends who know the uncensored story that is Teach.

Bender

Teach51 said:

Bender said: Only someone who fully accepts you could get to know you that well: I wouldn't hesitate to show myself in a bad light or think of disguising what I think in any way.

I have close friends who know the uncensored story that is Teach.

This is a very good thing. Especially for trauma victims, it's very important to see that other people can accept and love them just as they are.

blazingstar

The person who knows me best is my husband. He knows who I am right now. He is observant and so tolerant. We both understand that over our lifespans we have been very different people. But we are now just content with now. There is no re-hashing of old stuff.

During the past year we have come to know each other better. We were both at home all day for months at a time. I was unable to hide as much as I used to. He still is accepting. 

Hylian

I don't think anyone really knows the "real" me, as I find letting anyone know the "real" me to be way too much vulnerability to handle. I like being alone because I can just be "me" without having to worry about being vulnerable.

Wulfnite

I do. 

Bender

Wulfnite said:

I do. 

In more than one way, this is actually quite rare.

blazingstar

Hylian, I prefer to be alone too. 

I think there is a lot of stuff rattling around in our brains that doesn’t need to be shared.