Feeling inferior to other autistic sibling(s)
Does anyone have a sibling or siblings with autism/autistic traits that they feel overshadowed by in their abilities?
My brother has autism and is a very typical "aspie" in his presentation. He is also very proficient in many skills, has a IQ in the 150s (btw I don't care about IQ, but I've had that shoved in my face a lot so I guess it matters in this topic), seems to be able to learn anything he wants to and has gotten a PHD.
I'm not like that at all. People notice my traits more and I have a harder time with my ADHD (we both have ADHD) and masking my sensory issues, which my dad hates and says makes me seem "retarded." I don't have really any developed skills, and am not really a typical "aspie". I can pick up information quite well but the things I pick up on are not practical.
My parents always get disappointed and angry if I don't meet their expectations of being able to do the things he can do. I often feel bad for not being able to meet everyone's expectations and I can tell that my family is a lot more proud of him and willing to do more things for him. I feel like this insecurity prevents me from doing things, because if I don't pick up on things as easily people will be upset with me and act like I'm wasting my time and their time.
It also seems like my brother looks down on me and doesn't have any patience for my differences, either. He views me as lazy and expects me to achieve and do the same things as easily as he can, but I can't even though I've tried.
Do you have any siblings where you feel like your family favours their presentation of autism, and looks down on you because you don't have the same capabilities they do?