@ting1984 said:
I think we can all agree this unintentionally went off-topic, which is understandable in the times we're living in, as everything is politically charged, and it's hard to avoid. I admit that I contributed to the drift, and regret doing so. I think we can also all agree as well that we can move on and get back to the main topic at hand. I think there were lessons here that many of us autists don't have a lot of social confidence, can find it challenging to communicate with others, or understand others, and some of this even contributed to some of the aforementioned drift.
What I really want to emphasize the most is I cannot have confidence in part because I have so much trouble deciphering humor, taking people literally, taking them at face value. All I ask is that when people communicate with me, they try to be as direct as possible, avoid humor, and don't assume I can read between the lines or always understand what you're trying to get at. Yes, I may be "well-adjusted," but I AM autistic. Clinically diagnosed as moderate, even. I don't have confidence in humor, socializing with others, reading between the lines, or taking what anyone writes beyond face value. I cannot read your mind and can only process what you write in the ways my brain is hardwired to do: without humor, taken at face value, taken literally.
So, can I follow this up or will my doing so be frowned upon?
I have been on the outside, looking in, all my life, so I developed an internal locus of identity where, eventually, I didn't need others to bolster my confidence. It is self-perpetuating in me, these days.
Well, until dementia sets in.
@ting1984 said:
I think we can all agree this unintentionally went off-topic, which is understandable in the times we're living in, as everything is politically charged, and it's hard to avoid. I admit that I contributed to the drift, and regret doing so. I think we can also all agree as well that we can move on and get back to the main topic at hand. I think there were lessons here that many of us autists don't have a lot of social confidence, can find it challenging to communicate with others, or understand others, and some of this even contributed to some of the aforementioned drift.
What I really want to emphasize the most is I cannot have confidence in part because I have so much trouble deciphering humor, taking people literally, taking them at face value. All I ask is that when people communicate with me, they try to be as direct as possible, avoid humor, and don't assume I can read between the lines or always understand what you're trying to get at. Yes, I may be "well-adjusted," but I AM autistic. Clinically diagnosed as moderate, even. I don't have confidence in humor, socializing with others, reading between the lines, or taking what anyone writes beyond face value. I cannot read your mind and can only process what you write in the ways my brain is hardwired to do: without humor, taken at face value, taken literally.
So, can I follow this up or will my doing so be frowned upon?
A follow up on the topic of confidence... of course!
If its the confidence topic linked with politics, you can follow up in the political theory section
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So, can I follow this up or will my doing so be frowned upon?
I recall him being the confident How to Win Friends and Influence People guy. I Googled it and that is correct.
Yep. That’s the guy. A whole bunch of crap.
And many “self-help” books in general.
I have been on the outside, looking in, all my life, so I developed an internal locus of identity where, eventually, I didn't need others to bolster my confidence. It is self-perpetuating in me, these days.
Well, until dementia sets in.
A follow up on the topic of confidence... of course!
If its the confidence topic linked with politics, you can follow up in the political theory section
Neither.
New thread?
Total acceptance of what I'm bad? Yes. Something I do well at? A lot of people could do well at it.